Getting a divorce in California doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You don’t have to choose between mediation and litigation. Many couples use a mix of both. It’s not a special type of divorce, but rather a common strategy for solving problems more calmly.
For example, you and your spouse might work with a mediator to agree on minor issues, such as dividing furniture or a car. If you can’t agree on major issues such as selling a house or setting spousal support, you can ask a judge to decide only those parts. This helps you stay in control of what you can handle together while letting the court step in when needed.
How this approach works with kids and money
In California, if you have children and can’t agree on custody or visitation, the law requires you to attend mediation for that issue. It’s called Child Custody Recommending Counseling. For property or money matters, you can use a private mediator first. If that doesn’t resolve everything, your lawyer can help you take the unresolved issues to court.
Why mixing can be helpful
This approach can lower stress and save time. Mediation keeps your private conversations out of the public record and gives you more say in decisions. Court involvement ensures fairness when you and your spouse can’t agree.
What to keep in mind
Even with this mix, you must still follow California’s divorce rules, including full financial disclosure. A family law lawyer may help explain how mediation and court can work together in your situation. They help you plan the best order for each step, prepare paperwork, and protect your interests while encouraging fair communication with your spouse.