Tips for a healthy divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 29, 2023 | Divorce |

Sometimes married California couples stay together because divorce seems complicated, overwhelming and emotionally challenging.

While all of these things can be true about divorce, there are many things you can do to increase your chance of a healthy divorce. There are couples with bitter feelings between them who still manage to have a smooth divorce by following some key advice.

Emotions can often cause us to make poor decisions, and divorce involves a lot of practical decisions where you need to think logically and not emotionally.

How to handle your emotions

However, do not stifle your emotions. Allow yourself to feel and work through all emotions you are feeling. They are legitimate.

Everyone grieves in different ways and there are no right or wrong emotions to have. You may feel anger, sadness, guilt, shame or a combination of all of them.

The important thing to remember is to not let these emotions take control when it is time to make divorce decisions. You will be expected to make choices such as who is going to move out and who is going to keep what property and take on which debt.

Letting emotions get in the way of these decisions not only usually leads to a worse outcome but causes your divorce to be longer and more expensive.

Do not isolate

You may want to spend time alone to process your thoughts and emotions, but take advantage of your support system, as well. Talk things over with trusted family members and friends who express a willingness to be there for you.

People without support systems can experience poor health and strained relationships with others.

Make health a priority

Taking good physical and mental care of yourself might seem like obvious advice, but that is because it is true. Get enough sleep, avoid excess alcohol, eat well and exercise regularly, even if it is just taking a walk around your neighborhood.

Stick to routines where you can. This will help avoid feeling like your world is falling apart and there is nothing you can do about it. It will remind you that you are still in control of some things.

Working with a good divorce attorney can help. Attorneys fight for your rights, but they also provide wise advice and counsel through this difficult time.