If your spouse is narcissistic, that is likely going to make divorce very challenging. One reason for this is that narcissists are unable to think about others. They only focus on what they want and try to find ways that they can get it. They won’t consider how their actions are impacting anyone else, including you or your children. If you’re going through a divorce with a narcissistic person, you should ensure that you’re adequately prepared.
When your ex is a narcissist, they are going to feed off of your reactions to their antics. They want to know that they’re making you miserable. Being able to prevent them from seeing how their actions upset you can take away some of the power from them. You may consider working with your attorney so they can communicate with your ex’s side and create a buffer that will help.
There’s a good chance that your ex is going to create lies to try to make you look bad. This is a game they play because they need to make themselves look good at all costs. Because of this fact, make sure that you’re keeping track of everything that goes on. Document all communication and keep receipts for anything you have to pay for that’s related to the divorce.
Unfortunately, you aren’t going to be able to count on using a collaborative method for resolving your divorce. Your narcissistic ex probably isn’t going to be willing to negotiate or compromise on the matters at hand. You’ll likely have to go through a divorce trial. Work closely with your attorney to come up with a plan for the trial so you know your interests are being protected.